Would You Be Disappointed if Someone Close, Had a Pure Cremation ?

Honestly my dad wants it and I've told him we are not happy about it so it's now left it to us I understand where he's coming from but it won't help with the grief

Honestly it wouldn’t necessarily bother me tbh, if that’s what that person has asked for then that’s their wish and their choice

Each to their own, if that was the wishes of the person who had passed then no issue with that.

If that is what the person wishes then I don't see a problem with it. It is their choice so I would respect it. My parents have their funerals all planned out and paid for. I've no idea of their plans.

My mother in is having this, it's not financially motivated, she's not religious so doesn't see the point in a traditional funeral, she thinks it's all a waste of money , she is a penny pincher though, so I can see why he's opting for it

No problem whatsoever. There are so many ways to remember a person. Spending shed loads of hard come by money is not necessarily one of them. I would rather leave money to family than be played out by a fanfare and carried off by a team of coach and horses .That and subsidise all the local drunks.

My mum has already arranged something like this, I don’t remember the name . I was completely shocked when she dropped that bombshell on me.

My father in law discussed this with my husband before he died and he followed his wishes. I now feel I would like the same, no church or crematorium service, no hearse parade etc sounds good to me.

This is what my mum has set up for her, it's her wish at the end of the day, she would rather we put the money to something else,

I've spoken to my son as this is what i'd prefer to have, he didn't really want to talk about it but wasn't happy with my decision and felt it was very impersonal so may leave it up to him.

I think i would respect their wishes but i can understand why people wouldn’t want it for their loved ones.

People should get to choose. I want to donate my body to medical science personally

Its their choice so should be honoured. Personally I couldn't care less what happens to my body - the cheapest option will do - rather they spent the money on a remembrance party. But if someone feels its important how they want their body dealt with then its only fair that their wished are honoured.

I’ve never quite got my head round people travelling to attend a funeral when they didn’t make that journey to visit that person while alive.

I didn't think it would bother me.

But I was shielded from funerals when I was younger (I had a fair few to go to! Grandparents, friends etc. I had a fair bit of loss) Which must have had some impact on why my mental health was shot, as much as I'd hate to admit that. It wasn't until I attended a funeral as an adult... I got it, I understood what they were for, why they work and it stopped the tears and trauma of losing that person, not completely but the constant tear flow! It definitely helps grieving. Funerals are for the living, not the dead.

It didn't bother me too much about Pure Cremation until the other week when my Mother-in-laws, husband said he was considering it... I've never responded so quickly with... 'That's just selfish'

I guess it would bother me

One of my grandparents paid for his own funeral with Co-op in advance, all his children had to do was choose a hymn and some other little bits. He wasn't ill when he did it, he just wanted to take off any pressure So that would be another option if it was a financial thing.

Nope. Their body, their choice.

We've been discussing this on & off. I think this is what I want when I go. Funerals are eye watering expensive, I'd rather pay for my nearest & dearest to book a lodge for a night in Scotland, take my ashes to my favourite spot and then spend an evening reminiscing & raising a glass or two for me tbh.

If someone I love wished yo do the same, I'd respect their wishes & find my own way to pay tribute to them

Due to Mums wishes of donating her body we had no service, we did however have a coffee morning in her memory to raise funds for the cause of her death, it was a lovely morning. When 9 month later her body was released it was cremated by hospital, the informed me of date/time so family sat in quiet reflection, the ashes were returned 2 weeks later.

Mother in Law has a Pure Cremation in place, that is her choice and as the family is not religious all are ok with it.

Mine and husbands are simple with only 12 'guests' and only because my ex said the kids needed closure (they are no longer in contact with me) and hubby's son said he 'needed' to be there, otherwise we'd be happy just to go on our own.

If it's what a person wants why not. My oh doesn't want any organs taken from me as they are mine. I told him to stop being stupid I won't need them so I'd rather they were donated.

We had a cremation for both my great uncle and more recently my grandfather, was not done because of costs but neither were typically religious. We got family and friends round at a later date and celebrated them that way. I like what we did for the most part, felt easier on everyone.

I personally would prefer to have one myself, so I wouldn't object to anyone else having one.

I have paid for my pure cremation. When my Mum died - the organising was upsetting and expensive. And the day of the service just drags all the grief right back up to the surface. I found it was like losing her all over again. The money that would have gone on a funeral I would hope that the people that I leave behind would have a party to celebrate my life with an open bar. If the kids want a memory as such get people to write something funny or their major memory they have of me. Then the kids etc can go through the folder when they want

That’s what my dad is doing as I as we paid nearly £4000 for my mum’s funeral in lockdown and we didn’t even have any cars or flowers we had to drive ourselves there it’s cost my dad £1700 for his funeral and I just get the ashes back. I definitely think it’s worth doing. I was actually thinking about donating my body to medical science that with my son doesn’t have a funeral, but he’s quite happy with that as it’s my wishes.

I'd be OK with it. People should be able to make this decision and trust that their wish is fulfilled.

My mum arranged this for herself a couple of years ago. Her choice. My issue is my brother (57) lives with her but the ashes are going to be delivered to me. I have all the paperwork. Poor brother doesn’t ’like’ dealing with things like this. Because I absolutely love it! That was sarcasm. By the way I am younger than my brother.