Do You Find It Hard to Say Sorry or Thank You?
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I personally don't find it hard and have often said sorry when not at fault. However, many of my friends, family, acquaintances etc would sooner bite off their tongue than say sorry. I have a friend who rarely says thank you even for a gift even though my thanks are enthusiastic about hers to me despite them being no match to my personality, I am grateful none the less. The first year i was diagnosed as diabetic she got me a box of chocolates and a tub of hot chocolate!
I have no problem with either of these but I do find it funny how we tend to say sorry in the UK when someone bumps into us, as if we are saying it on their behalf.
EmmaWright762 I think it is often difficult to know who bumped who so we hedge our bets. We also seem to say sorry when we haven't heard someone, as we lean our head as if to say sorry, can you say that again?
tara73ziva thankfully most folk are the same and especially, I am sure, the lovely LD members.
I always say please and thank you but I'll only say sorry if I've done something wrong or said something
Lynibis oh no that's not good if she didn't want to come to yours she should have just said I think it's sad that people just can't tell the truth especially when someone has gone out their way to do something for them it's a shame tho for it to come to this have you told her how you feel
Leannexxx there's a bit more on the friendship topic but as you say make an excuse if you don't wanna come. But for all these years she has been happy for me to cook for her, give lifts, take on days out etc, but strangely she hardly ever replied to texts or emails. She ghosted our boss for two weeks when her daughter gave birth and he didn't have a clue what was going on or when she would be back at work. He also never got an apology or explanation.
I sent a polite text asking her not to ring as I was upset, but still no explanation or apology.
Lynibis its like the situation way my oldest brother before my mother passed away she said she didn't want her sister at her funeral I know it's harsh but they didn't have a good relationship at all and I didn't invite her I told my brother if he wanted to give him her number he can do it as long as I didn't go against my mother's wishes I wasn't bothered after the funeral he lived with us for about a year and a half and I didn't see if again but he invited everyone in my family to his wedding that was a year ago and he said it was over what I did honestly I was a little taken back because he run his mouth to my brother and sister but not me ****house in my opinion he couldn't speak to his youngest sister how he was felt about it he probably would have been told the same I stand by what I did
Lynibis exactly I don't see the point speak about it and if you still feel the same that's fine I just hate it when they run their mouths making out they are hard done by I know full well why I wasn't invited to his wedding coz I'm the only family member would open my mouth to his new wife if she asked me anything about him I always tell the truth and people can't handle it
I am more than happy to apologise when and where necessary and I always say Thank you.I was brought up to do so.It's basic etiquette.I hate upsetting or offending people even by default.
No I don't have any problems saying sorry and thank you, you could add please into it as well, I think it's rude if you don't
martinlufc5637 very true, I was probably just thinking of my own situation with my friend as please doesn't come into that. It is extremely important for kids to learn to say please and thank you, some adults too. I can only remember my friend saying thanks a couple of times for all the birthday and Xmas gifts I've given over the years.
Lynibis I was brought up to say these things and I have done it with my children, it's a common cursity , unfortunately a lot of adults and children have no respect
I think saying thank you is one of the easiest things to do in the world, manners cost nothing but can definitely make a tiny bit of difference to people's day.
Sorry is of course harder to say but I do like to hold myself accountable for my own mistakes, it's the only way you can learn from them.
I have absolutely no problem with saying either. We teach our son the same. He will say Thank you when the checkout staff hand him something, he will say sorry if he has done something he shouldn't. It isn't always easy to say sorry but it is something you have to do.
MrsCraig I am not sure I explained myself very well in this topic. I think we all say please and thank you for life's daily little events like someone making you a cuppa or asking a small favour. But I guess I was feeling miffed with my friend (?) for not finding it within herself to just pick up the phone and say sorry for not turning up without any text or warning, wasting my food etc. Also for never saying thanks for meals I cook for her or gifts etc. I have lost count of the times I have cooked a meal (even a roast chicken dinner) and she has not turned up. It is a wonder our friendship has lasted this long but I do forgive very easily. However, I have now come to the end of my tether with someone who obviously has no regard for the feelings of others.
Lynibis I think sometimes things are taken for granted, like you cooking her a meal, she just expected it would happen and didn't see an issue if she didn't turn up as probably thought to herself, she would have had to cook for her anyway. Whenever we go to my parents for dinner I always say thank you, even message my mum to say thanks again once we get home.
Some people forget that a simple thank you can go a long way.
Lynibis sorry to hear that, in high school had a best mate then one day she was mates with someone else out of the blue! Ignored me and started to bully me didn’t give in to it kept ignoring her and it stopped pfft some people just damn sh*t rude after all those years being mates just upped and left
I have no problems saying thank you and sometimes say to people after I have held a door for them! Because they haven’t. As for sorry, I am use it when I actually mean it.
eyeballkerry ha ha yes I reckon many of us have done that. I do get annoyed with rude people who have no manners but hey ho, their loss, not mine.
Sure don't.
I'd like to say salutations (a simple hello) to strangers when passing by, but they don't do it here like overseas.
Some say this country is lost, too far gone.. nah, if going by that logic then so are other Western nations, but the tide is turning.
PhilipMarc I have recently taken up walking....just round the block to get out of the house and a little exercise for my legs. I am usually in the car but now when walking I make sure I make eye contact with others on the street and say morning, afternoon or evening with a smile. Sometimes I get a reply or nod, rarely nothing at all and occasionally a short chat. I find making human contact a very gratifying experience.
I gave gifts for a neighbour she never f*cking says thanks not even when it was for her newborn baby like wtf not even a thank you on Facebook messenger or give an Xmas card in return
What does that make her?
I was brought up with manners, so I've always said please and thank you.
Me and MrsChimp don't argue (seriously), but if I did feel that I'd need to say sorry for something, I would. ,
I always say please and thank you without even thinking about it. I'll always say sorry if I'm in the wrong.
Never find hard for both words in use for daily basis as I’m tiktoker also YouTuber when I reply to comments which most of the time I don’t understand there’s no translation for them too also here when I sent message on Contact us after few words I do write sorry to bother your then I start full message, while shopping sometimes I do little accidents then I do apologise nothing wrong saying sorry or thanks I think if we keep ourselves to a right track then our kids will do same good example for them too thanks Lynibis for this lovely topic
M1321 ah thank you for your lovely comment. I think you have to be a pretty unpleasant person to not say thank you for daily pleasantries like door held open for you. Many people find it more difficult to say sorry for something they have said or done wrong.
What sort of posts do you put on YouTube and tik tok? I did the latter for a while doing history snippets under the name of history nutter but tbh it didn't do anything to enhance my life so I gave up after a few months
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