The Generation Gap
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I am old, no question. I look back on a childhood so much different to that of today's children. The things I learned, and things i didn't, make up the person I am today, just as much as my genes or any other factor. Because of the time in which I lived childhood was far simpler, far easier and far more innocent. Even the have nots (I was one) knew what their world consisted of.
There was nothing unusual in my world, it was a place of normality, at least on the surface, and what lay beneath was not something i ever saw. I had never heard of racism, abortion, promiscuity, po*n, gay (it was still a crime back then), lgbt, transgender, gender fluidity. Sex was a vague knowledge, mostly based on ignorant playground chat, but as girls we knew it didn't happen until after a wedding. Then came home and babies, not necessarily in that order. Then came feminism.
As my generation has aged we have had to adapt to all those things and more, far more than anything our parents or grandparents had to assimilate into their lives. Some were belligerent and held to old beliefs, some changed with each new ideal, fad, or way of life. Some were angry, some sad for a lost way of life and others just plain bewildered by the speed and magnitude of the change. And yes we sometimes got it wrong and used words or phrases that were no longer acceptable, and boy, are we castigated by the generations coming up behind us who have never had to go through all these changes, they grew up with them and have never know a time before all this new thinking. Strangely enough my best friend at school was a black girl called fancy, her mum was my mum's friend and none of us thought twice about our colour.
Recently I was made to feel like the lowest life form after making a comment that had no evil, nasty or rude intent. It was a general remark and was not even directed at anyone but you would think I had committed a heinous crime. My castigation even spilled into another thread with the aggrieved person speaking as if I had personally insulted them, someone i didn't even know, and blasting my other comments on here, all 3000 of them? I don't know.
It seems I have to constantly change in order to fit in with all of society's changes, but the young in society who haven't had to change, so easily turn on us if we forget for a moment that we live in a brave new world, not of our making.
I tried to set right what I said for the sake of harmony but it seems forgiveness is in short supply if someone inadvertently slips up.
So in view of this, this is my last ever post on LD and I will no longer be posting deals or comps either. I would sooner leave than cause dissent and frankly do not want to become as unforgiving and cold as some of those that exist on social media platforms. I am a decent human being and will not allow myself to be made to feel anything less than that.
So, thanks to all who I have enjoyed exchanges, debates and laughs with but those who judge a person on a few words I will not lose any more sleep over, the last couple of days have been trial enough................
Hi lynibis sòoo sorry you are leaving.. I will miss not talking to you. You helped me out. All the very best in what ever you do. Take care of your self. May be one day we will talk again who knows. ☹☹
Hi Lynibis
Today I posted my 10,000th deal on here. Yee Hah!
And then..oh no...your message.
I think anyone (including me) who spends a lot of time contributing posts and comments to LD gets fed up from time to time with some of the comments made. When I get really pissed off, I just ‘turn LD off’ for a few days and come back feeling refreshed.
People say things online they don’t mean, sometimes in a fit of temper. In the real, face-to-face world, people are much faster to apologise, and to 'kiss and make up', when they can see they have upset each other. And we all quickly move on and forget about it. Somehow it doesn't work so well online. It’s one of the problems with the Internet.
But remember LD is 99% fun and 99% friendly – so don’t let the 1% spoil it for you.
Also I found the following clause buried deep in the LD House rules that specifically applies to someone called Lynibis (yes, you!)
Mirrors on the ceiling,
The pink champagne on ice
And she said, 'we are all just prisoners here, of our own device'
And in the master's chambers,
They gathered for the feast
They stab it with their steely knives,
But they just can't kill the beast
Last thing I remember, I was
Running for the door
I had to find the passage back to the place I was before
'Relax' said the night man,
'We are programmed to receive.
You can check out any time you like,
But you can never leave!'
So turn LD off for a few days. But don't forget you need to congratulate me on my 10,000th deal.
Sorry, but as you can see, that means you will have to make another post!
Thousands more posts actually.
Hope to see you back on here on Monday.
Come on Lyn, smile
Johnny
Thanks for your kind words Sheriff, I won't hang up my deputy badge for good but will gallop into the sunset for a bit of r and r, watch this space.....I will return!
Seriously though, congratulations on such a magnificent deals milestone, quite an accomplishment!
PS Hotel California. Guess the lyrics would make another good puzzle thread!
Lynibis I'm sorry to hear that things have got so bad that you feel it necessary to leave. Political correctness is impeding proper debate. Many things do still need to change for the better, but a too many people get incredibly upset over the most ridiculous things and shout down or intimidate those who don't agree with them. Consequently, it means the majority of people feel unable to discuss certain subjects or defend others being criticized for fear of being pounced on.
Hi Lynibis
It's a shame that you are considering leaving as you are part of the furniture on here, especially the chat section. 
I am a millennial and I hate how other millennials can at times give us all a bad name. I generally have a lot of respect for you baby boomers because you were brought up in a time where political correctness wasn't at all an issue, unlike today. And as you said, things were a lot more innocent back in your day. Also, you taught us millenials how to use a spoon.
I am so sorry that you are leaving! I enjoy the contributions you make to the chat section. I was taught to respect everybody and their opinions and ideas and I'm sorry that other people have made you feel so low. I hope you don't leave for good but just have a wee break.
Phew! I did something I have never done before........I rushed to the end of the book, ignored all the middle of the story and felt relieved. I have no idea why anyone would create this feeling for you but I am saddened by it. Another member has also experienced this recently but, sensibly, has muted them. You should do the same. It's hard not to be insulted and hurt by the written word - most of us take our time to put down how we feel but some are just too quick for their own good, resulting in a brusque, contentious dig. Don't even THINK about abandoning us.... x
Cheer up, Lynibis You know what they say.
Some things in life are bad,
They can really make you mad.
Other things just make you swear and curse.
When you're chewing on life's gristle,
Don't grumble, give a whistle!
And this'll help things turn out for the best
And
Always look on the bright side of life!
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