Is it Wrong to Ask for Donations for IVF Treatment?
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There is a woman I know who's sent up a go fund me page for £5000 this is her second one within a year for the same thing IVF treatment in another country she have two lots of it done here on NHS and two from what her stepfather paid for now she's 45 years old with no children my issue is, it's it really fair asking people for money when she's on benefits she's got a little toy business going with her husband her own YouTube channel and just used a good bit of money on a new car and decking for her garden I'm I wrong for thinking she shouldn't be asking for money?
I don't see an issue in asking for donations if people are transparent about their situation and exactly what they are raising donations for.
We all have different charities and causes we like to support. Someone's storie may resonate with a person so they are happy to donate
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Funnily enough I've just mentioned a Gofundme in another thread
www.gofundme.com/f/3dtoyshop-sponsor-a-teddy-scheme
I'm not connected to this it's just a cause I personally like to support since I found out about. My son had surgery and when he was having his op I give his bear matching bandages and I think it meant a lot to him, and I think these bears will mean a lot to the kids who receive them.
And I think this charity is fantastic I've saved it to donate when I get paid and Ive shared on my Facebook so hopefully people will donate more
She can certainly ask but personally I would never give money to such a person. There are simply too many people on this planet which is causing huge environmental issues so IVF treatment seems one of the worst things to give money to. We need to motivate people to have less or no children. 1 child per couple would seem like the right number for the government to support.
Going for procedures abroad can be higher risk than the UK. Many countries have less regulation and more fake medical credentials. A woman who travelled to Turkey recently died who was having gastric band surgery. Often the NHS has to deal with the botched procedures done elsewhere in the world and this all costs further money to the taxpayer and puts the NHS under greater stress.
I have no issue with IVF at all I'm a mum myself the problem I have it's not for the right reasons as I know she wants a house that's all it's for
Yes I'd say some people do take advantage in this case I'd think about fostering or adopting
I have no issue at all with IVF but I know full well she can't foster or adopt because she's in a one bedroom flat and her husband has a record for stalking she wants a house because she doesn't get on with her neighbours too
I don't have an issue with IVF but personally theres only so many times I could put myself through that. I do understand what it feels like to not be told you can't have children. I was told that although I had 1 lucky for me I ended up with 3 naturally
If the person is transparent it's OK. You can ignore it if you wish. I only chip in to ones I want and if I can.
If I didn't know the person then yea of course but I can't help but think she's deceiving people who work for there money and to give it to someone who's doing all for the wrong reasons
We donate directly to a few different charities and I would only donate on a platform if I actually new the person. There are too many scams and in this case the lady is buying luxury items so I would be a bit wary
Leannexxx you seem to have a problem with this particular individual, and have added more comments to the discussion venting about why you believe she wants the IVF, for housing and the history of her partner would mean fostering / adoption isn't an option.
I'm not sure creating chat discussion on a public forum like this to moan about people you know is a particular healthy habit. Your disgusting your hatred towards an individual as a chat topic,.when really I don't think you want to chat about it but rather rant about them to others.
The title suggested this was a discussion about go fund me and asking for donations but in reality it's you moaning about a person you know.
Ok if you say so and no it's not about this individual as all it's how people use a charity for there own agenda I've said what I've said because I know this person and it had me thinking how many others do what she's doing if you have a issue with my chat please ignore it and move on!
Leannexxx I didn't have an issue with your chat at all in the beginning, but the more you responded to it became less about your question and more about a bashing a particular individual you seem to have a problem with.
I'm only going off my experience with this one person thats it and it did have me thinking how many more do it, if she really wanted to do it she could have put the money she spent on a new car and decking towards her trip
I think she probably is taking advantage as I imagine others do to. But it's not quite a scam so she gets away with it. It's a shame as I think this kind of behaviour puts a lot of people off donating. It's very sad when people can't conceive naturally but life isn't fair sometimes.
Over the years I have become more and more cynical. There are so many con artists and scammers around that I would never donate to anything like this unless I had proof positive that it was an honest cause.
Who is to say this woman isn't using the money for a nice holiday abroad under the guise of IVF treatment? Not so easy to be found out in another country. And is it really cheaper abroad by the time you've paid for the treatment AND travel, accommodation, food etc.
Thank you for your comment and I agree with you it's hard to know what's feel or not
I don’t see a problem. If people want to set up a go fund me they can. You have the choice to support or not!
coletteforrest3 trouble is, there are many kind people who are ruled by their heart and end up being conned out of thousands. These days you can't afford to assume that all people are honest, they are not and in this instance there is no way of knowing if this woman is genuine or a con artist. The toy shop one above would be easy to check but the subject of this topic rings very loud warning bells in my head.
I think you'll find that minding your own business is the least rude thing you can do, likewise giving the same advice is not rude at all (and certainly not as rude as your the reactions) and if you don't like people commenting with thoughts different from your own, then don't ask random people for comments...
Leannexxx - This woman is definitely a scam artist who wants free money to spend as she pleases. I find her shameless and the majority of "beggars" operating on Go Fund Me.
You can ask, anyone can ask and if you're open with the situations I don't see the problem with putting one up, it's up to those donating to assess and decide if they want to give. You can always ask but they shouldn't expect
I think you’re right to have doubts because you would think her own money should be prioritised to funding her IVF rather than a new car and home improvements.
I have seen people use it in scams which is such a shame for those that are using it for good causes.
She can ask and she’s honest about what it’s for so it’s up to the donor if they wish or not. There was no such thing for me so personally I wouldn’t. I made a decision that I can’t have what I can’t afford. I would feel awful taking others money but each to their own. I have gone through life without becoming a mum even though I very much wanted it.
At end of day it’s truly up to the couple if they want to set up a go fund me page but if this couple are treating themselves to luxury car, home improvements etc, are they really interested in more rounds of IVF. Truly at age 45 I think the chance of it actually working is dramatically reduced and a lot of clinics wouldn’t be interested in accepting them for IVF due to her age etc
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