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Is anyone struggling in relationships where they feel they're the only one doing the work?
Been there done that, but it was many years ago. I was foolish enough to agree to marrying someone on the grounds that he gave up taking drugs - how gullible was I? Doh! I had a beautiful daughter, he was a control freak who simply wanted a slave but as soon as it became apparent he was back to his old ways I left him taking my beautiful little girl with me. It was extremely difficult financially but I went back to college. My daughter is now grown and living independently. I am due to marry a wonderful man in 4 weeks time at the age of 54. Patience paid off.
EmmaWright762 you stood up for yourself I'm proud of you. You knew deep down once you went down that path he wasn't right and you moved on. When you moved on you made space for someone new. I'm glad you met Mr Right xx
Lucky for me the answer is no, my partner and I share all the jobs and work arounf the home but I always cook and my partner washes up.
No, the great thing about our relationship is that we get on so well, everything is equal, it's not perfect but it works for us
martinlufc5637 that's great. That's how life in relationships should be. Life isn't perfect but balanced works xx
martinlufc5637 It’s great when you find the one and everything works out. I am very lucky that my husband and I get along and share the load.
mumstheword26 We were completely different when we met, I was rough and ready, she was prim and proper lol but we've made it work for over 30 years ,
Luckily for me the answer is no. My husband and I have a wonderful relationship. We aren't perfect but we share everything equally.
I am constantly being asked for advice by one of my closest friends as her relationship isn't great. It has been this way ever since I have known her, but it seems to be getting worse. I know she gave him an ultimatum but whether she goes through with it is yet to be seen.
Must be very tiring and frustrating when it is one sided.
Relationships should never feel unbalanced. If they are it won't work. I'm so glad yours is working. I think your friend should pull pack and give to herself. Perhaps then he'll learn his lesson. If not then maybe he's not for her xx
mumstheword26 I've told her soany times that she needs to put herself and their son first. She has given him so many chances. They have been to counselling, she has told him what needs to change, what she needs from him etc. He changes for a little bit and then goes back to his old ways. It is a never ending cycle. They have broken up before but she has always taken him back after a few days, a week max. I try to support her as best I can. Obviously only the two of them know what is going on in their relationship, I am only going on what she has told me.
I share the jobs around the house and garden cos I work shifts in hospital I think it works well for us I cook clean and anything else that needs doing even a part time taxi driver for our daughter's
I was in a one-sided relationship for over 30 years, stayed because of the kids and then at the age of 57 I revolted and left, got a job and then met a wonderful man who doesn't mind using the hoover, washing up, cleaning bathroom as long as I do the cooking, which is fine by me as I love cooking. In hindsight should have jumped ship a lot sooner.
lilyflower that's great to hear. Well done you I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself. It's never too late xx
Relationships work both ways...I always used to clean my partner's football boots when he refereed a football match & he always used to do the ironing...
As Support Workers both my partner & I work long shifts, we shared the jobs between us & like to spend time together on our days off ..
Every now and then I lose it and my oh gets on with it. On the whole he is pretty good. He is a typical bloke though
Jerseydrew men are from Mars women are from venus. We all lose it sometimes xx
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