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Should Table Manners be Taught in School?

Things like not having elbows on the table, holding the fork in your left hand, not eating off other peoples plates seem to be taught less and less to the younger generations.

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SamGoodship
8 months ago
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Pjran

Surely that’s automatically taught at home. Teachers have enough to do, it’s parents duty.

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SamGoodship
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Pjran Not everyone is raised with the same ''standards'' especially those with disadvantage upbringings.

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Pjran

SamGoodship most of the nation don’t go to public schools but they still have good manners.

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gothvixen

SamGoodship so just pass on parental responsibility to teachers, like they don't have enough to do? I've never heard such nonsense. Later you say not everyone has a happy home - unhappy homes can still instil good manners you know, and disadvantage doesn't necessarily translate to bad manners. It's disadvantageD upbringing, by the way, and standards doesn't need quotation marks. Thinking that teachers should take on everything that poor parents fail to do is completely unrealistic and unfair, no matter what the child's background. Children in the system, as you put it, have carers who are paid to take on parental responsibilities. Your arguments are irrelevant.

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Leannexxx

Yes put it all on the teachers! No they shouldn't it's down to the parents

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jdible

It starts at home with the parents my friend who is a school teacher says sadly alot of children have not been taught table manners same as alot of children don't even know where food comes from and there's many parents who are not toilet training and coming to school wearing nappies still it all comes back to the parents

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SamGoodship
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jdible Not everyone is raised with the same ''standards'' especially those with disadvantage upbringings.

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MelissaLee1

I think manners should be learnt first and foremost in the home.We follow by example so if mum and dad are piddling around with their phones at the table then the youngsters will automatically mimic.The other thing is ,most people I know don't eat at the table but on the sofa in front of the TV so table manners go out of the window.When I was younger I had to ask to leave the table as well!

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Leannexxx

MelissaLee1 🤣🤣🤣 we eat with are tea on the sofa but my little one eats at the coffee table we don't have room for a big table I wish we did tho

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MelissaLee1

Leannexxx Now that I am a widow, I also eat on the sofa most days . I have a table but I seldom use it now . I'm hoping Colin Firth will pop by early one evening and I'll get out the matching plates lol.

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Lynibis

MelissaLee1 I am same, eat alone on sofa in front of tv. However, I cook for others a lot and we always sit at the table (unless it's my bestie and just a sandwich lol).

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Leannexxx

MelissaLee1 my dad is the same when we was kids it was always eat at the table and I would love to do that with my kids but honestly where we are we just haven't got the room😔

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Pfs

Schools should have a look at what they are teaching because a lot of it is absolute garbage 🗑 but manners should start at home

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SamGoodship
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Pfs Absolutely, but not every child is brought up in a happy home, so it would be helpful.

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martinlufc5637

Parents should teach them, we did, politeness, good manners, courtesy ect...ect...

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SamGoodship
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martinlufc5637 What about those who have not a great upbringing or are in the system?

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martinlufc5637

SamGoodship what like me, I had a terrible childhood, I was in the system, care homes, foster care, school didn't teach me anything and I was always well mannered ect...

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sarah4701

Surely this is for parents to teach. The teachers are having to do more and more, as parents are not teaching at home

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SamGoodship
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sarah4701 What about those who have not a great upbringing or are in the system?

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sallylester1

I also agree this should be taught at home. So many basic things are not taught to children these day's it's scary. Kid's in nappies at school!! honestly I don't understand it. Not being able to use a knife and fork crazy

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Cheeydem

Unfortunately some parents do not care to teach children basic manners , in order to keep community good shape I believe must do something but like all the previous comments; teachers have enough. I believe parents and cares has ro be force to join “ being parent and cares course.”

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JLouM

Why do parents not want to parent these days? Seems very lazy now.

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chele44

No I’d rather teachers concentrated on school subjects rather than manners. Manners should be taught by parents to kids from the very start. Teachers don’t get paid enough or have enough time in school day to start having to teach manners to kids as well. Kids should be starting school with at least the basic of manners, excuse me, thank you etc. Though I have to disagree with holding fork in your left hand, as a family of lefties (myself and my 4 kids) we tend to do things like that backwards but I don’t like elbows on the table and eating of another’s plate is a big no. My aunt who’s 92 in July gets disgusted when her younger brother and his wife take her out for dinner cos she says he’s constantly saying to his wife r u going to eat that, r u finished with that etc. She goes to see nurse at drs surgery most wks for ongoing problem with her leg and dreads it when my mum and dad can’t take her cos then my uncle and his wife take her and they always go for something to eat after drs. My uncle is my dad’s youngest brother and my dad says he’d slap his hand if he caught him doing that in front of him. They come from family of 10 and my uncle is youngest, I seem to find youngest member of family doesn’t have same manners of the older 1s. My own baby sister is same. There’s 11yrs between her and the next sister and I regularly say to my parents who brought her up cos it wasn’t same parents I had 😂. Mum blames us older kids cos we were all much older and we constantly spoilt her. We’d have come home from work and handed over r housekeeping and present for baby sister so suppose in a way we r to blame

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Jerseydrew

No. Teachers are there to teach kids to read and write. It's not their job to parent. Dumping parents responsibility on schools really needs to stop. It's unfair on those that work in schools

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Lynibis

People are forever suggesting teachers/schools should teach this and that but there are only so many hours in the day. Things that can be taught at home, should be. No child should be unable to use cutlery, wearing nappies, unable to hold a pencil, not saying please or thank you, unable to do up buttons and zips etc.

Both mine were toilet trained by 18 months which was not unusual 50 years ago. We wanted them out of towelling nappies and rubbers asap as we didn't have the luxury of disposables. I had also taught them to read simple words and write their names before going to school. It really isn't difficult and should not be put on teachers, especially male ones and females who have no experience raising children.

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tumblespots

This is a lesson that starts at home not at school

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eyeballkerry

I taught my children table manners before they started school and this should be done by parents. I am a bit miffed by having to hold a fork in the left hand. Does it matter which hand it is in?

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JLouM

eyeballkerry I don’t think it does. I am ambidextrous and I always pick up my knife in my left hand and fork in right automatically. Sometimes I swap over depending on the food. It wasn’t until someone explained to me it’s ‘easier’ to cut food in your right hand. Similarly I was ‘encouraged’ to use my right hand when learning to write as I sometimes picked up my pens/pencils in my left hand. I was told it would be easier for me as that’s what most people did. I open and shut doors with either hand. So now I am forcibly mainly right-handed but sometimes use my left but weaker. As far as manners go though I think you should line up knife and fork straight in front on plate when finished food. I don’t think elbows are that important. I think phones should be put down when eating at the table too.

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eyeballkerry

JLouM I am left handed but due to society i have to do some things right handed. So I am pretty ambidextrous. My Nan was forced to write with right hand at school. Years ago we left handed people would have called witches and been burnt!

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snoogans888

This is definitely something that is the parent’s responsibility to teach their children. But I think if the teachers see a child struggling then I don’t see any harm in them encouraging basic table manners.

Myself, my partner and now my daughter all use our fork in our right hand and the knife in our left hand (we are all right handed). So I wouldn’t want them trying to change this for our daughter.

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Gromit22

Perhaps it could be taught in the Personal Social Education lessons, I’m assuming that those still happen and if they aren’t maybe they should be brought back. Perhaps they could also teach them about having respect. I’m fed up of there being generations of adult brats who are self-entitled and think the world owes them a living, take no responsibility for anything and that as soon as those who get a job after finishing education so have no work experience compared to their colleagues think they should be paid shed loads of money.

I’m annoyed that the education system and the government and ultimately society has stopped teachers being able to discipline children that they and their parents have to much control and put the teachers in a position where they can’t do anything anymore

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HEDGEHOGS

I all honesty I feel that all manners should start with being taught at home, teachers have enough to do.

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Emerge11

Manners should be taught at home by the Parents. Thats their responsibility of being a parent. Thats how I was taught. If I did wrong, I was dealt with accordingly. If I didnt listen I would have a whack. If I didnt have my food It would get warmed up later. No alternatives.

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Pfs

Emerge11 I personally knew of children who had parents was quite strict but ended up in prison for serious crimes

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Emerge11

Pfs My Parents was not strict at all but they did set an example If I was out of line. I grew up In the 70`s.

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hillmary615

I think parents should teach their children table manners at home before they start school.I taught my children table manners and now that they have children of their own they are learning about table manners. Not many families sit down and eat together. I always sat down with the rest of my family and used my table manners what I had been taught. It's a shame some children don't get taught manners today.

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Paulyousef28

In the 1980s if you did not have the manners then as well as telling you off then the teachers here in Bradford primary school used to give you a slap or grab you from your ears and say how dare you.

I personally felt bullied by nearly every teacher I had.

Especially the racist ones and I was the Quiet one.

Easy to be taken advantage of.

So yeah manners should be taught.

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DaveCollin60235

Parents should have the manners and children would follow them not a JOB for teachers

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LHP118

Absolutely. Parents/carers are responsible for teaching manners, including table manners, on priority.

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TheChimp

Parents should teach manners

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stevea808

That's definitely up to the parents to teach their kids table manners. Teachers already have enough to do.

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sharri

Most schools kind of do this in a way as it is

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newlaura04

Yes I think so, my children were taught from an early age but declined when they started eating at school, even holding cutlery was a chore for them and started to be done incorrectly, maybe a monitor to check and guide not as to teach,

coming from a disadvantaged background does not mean or tip the scales for a child to not know these things at all, I’ve found that children from those settings tend to have better understanding of basic table manners, there is no monetary cost to table manners or any manners at all, there’s a lot of distraction nowadays for parents not teaching there children the simplest of things because they just want there child to be occupied so they have more time on there own devices ect or work commitments mean you don’t get the time to do these things and put on other people to teach it, I’m all for providing for children but if this means taking time away from doing the simplest of things with them is it worth making more money to buy them something or spending more time with them teaching them something?? That’s a question that people tend to not think about, but having someone to remind the ones that do know and assist the ones that don’t would be productive, even a child that doesn’t know would be quick to learn off another child that does know if there was something in place to uphold table manners, even in the most casual ways of discussion,

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Jinky67

No, because that's a parent job, but also because it's classest bull

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