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I'm constantly running around, and becoming quite overwhelmed with everything I'm expected to fit in. I know I need to stop and unwind (I've took to gardening and model making) however by stopping to enjoy doing these I them find myself behind in all the things that were stressing me before.
How do people get around this?
Anyone have any ideas to help/overcome this?
I make a list of what needs to be done. I then prioritise the items on the list. I give myself a set time each day to get them done and if I don't manage then I just say it can be done tomorrow. I find the only time I get really stressed with lots to do is the run up to Christmas.
If you don't look after yourself, physically and mentally, then you won't be able to get anything done. So take the time to destress.
Plan everything. I use old fashioned wall calendars and desk diaries to keep track of everything. You can get some with appointment times too so you can allocate each task to an amount of time you will spend on it. Include walking by beach or in park!!
.Switch off your Pc.Go out alone and leave your phone at home.Walk in green spaces and/or by rivers.Poodle around shops.Get a train to somewhere different.Power down for a day.
I used to be like this, had four children and never found time for myself. Basically I had to wait until they grew up. I also took up gardening and used to hide in the green house pottering for ages. I now go for walks everyday. Yes, stuff needs going but I delegate more now.
Write your to do list and just pick one at a time. Don't start a second job until the first is completed. Set an alarm if need be so that you stop for a cuppa or a snack. Never be afraid to ask for help. It may surprise you to know that people have a need for the opportunity to show they care as much as we need their help 
EmmaWright762 thank you for the advise of asking for help. As a single parent it is hard to find help.
I like to make to do lists and prioritize what should be done first, if I get to tick a couple off great and I re write a new one the next day, some days I don't look at it but at least it's out of my head and down on a piece of paper.
Honestly I don't not term time anyway. Sounds awful but I've so much with work which is pressured and home. My weekends are me drained and exhausted and trying to clean
Jerseydrew that is exactly how I feel each weekend. So glad I'm not the only one who feels like this.
vixe80 thankfully schools have holidays. It's needed. Anyone who says schools have to many holidays haven't worked in one. Staff are wrecked. I often spend my spare time sorting stuff out for work. Stuff I shouldn't be doing. I'm only support staff but work my holidays for the kids because it's stuff needed for them. I get resources for the playground and for my interventions so I can get my kids to learn.
I find that listening 
to music 
and singing 
along to the songs helps me to destress but everyone is different. Maybe 
try reading some books 
or go out for a walk around where you live and makes a what to do list 
will help as a checklist of what needs to be done. Take your time and don’t push yourself into doing everything all at once!
too lol 
I just sing haha 
Thank you to everyone who has posted on this thread. I already feel better, relived I'm not the only one who is feeling this way and some brilliant ideas of how to help. So glad I posted it. Thanks again
I have loads of colouring in books. But - if you can - then delegate some stuff to others that live with you. If you do a lot of favours for others then learn to say no sometimes too.
suevernon1968 I am not good at delegatingor saying no to others. You have found two faults, I will try to do both. Thanks
Ask one of your friends and take it in turns to have the kids for a day. The kids will love it and you can catch up on your chore, then sit and relax.
When the weather is fine, try to find at least 30mins to sit in your garden or local open space. Sit, relax, close your eyes and focus on the sounds of nature around you
Was just wondering if you had managed to find some techniques to help you and hoping that you are feeling a little less stressed and more relaxed.
MrsCraig thank you so much for thinking of me/coming back to aak 
. Yes I have now got lists of jobs, which clears my mind. The lists are magneted onto freezer... Therefore everyone can see what needs to be done. saves me feeling - a) I need to do everything, b) feel like I'm always nagging everyone to do anything, c) I hate asking for help - so family/friends also know about lists and can offer if want to help. They are working a treat, as I hate asking for help, also has cleared the never ending list that was whirling constantly in my head.
list titles are: jobs need doing certain days /or this week (housework etc), needs doing soon, needs doing eventually.
I've also tried to give myself at least half an hour switch off 3 times a week, ensuring I'm not doing anything during this time (sit in garden-weather permitted, drove to beach and sat in car watching pouring rain last week, went into local forest and sat listening to the birds). I tried hobby time, mindful colouring and listening to music/reading. But actually these are still brain ticking over time - so I literally just sit, clear my mind and embrace nature/surrounding.
I am still having to force myself to do this, as I still can't fit everything in, and feel bad sometimes for taking that time out, went stuff still needs doing. But am training myself that it is OK.
I had so many people message ideas, and I tried all of them. Also this thread has helped know I'm not alone feeling like this and that people really care.
So thank you
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