Is Anyone Else NOT Looking Forward to Christmas?
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I feel like there's alot of pressure to appear happy about Christmas and I'm sure we all have different reasons, but I often wonder how many people actually look forward to it, or enjoy it once the day comes. I struggle with Christmas every year and it makes me feel really depressed, I think it's a difficult time of year for many people.
I am not really fussed on It either. It Is just another day to me. All that build up and Its gone then. Christmas Is where people get Into debt by maxing out their Credit Cards and trying to pay back through the following year. We are all struggling living In rip off Britain. Times are hard I know.
This year is difficult. My parents are now elderly. My sister has ongoing mystery illness, possibly cancer and her mother-in-law recently passed. No one is going to be cheerful. Me and husband are only ones without own family due to unfortunate circumstances. We are not party people, can’t stand them. We are in our 50s now though. If anything we will be happy just to spend quality time together in our cosy homes and a nice dinner. That’s it for us now.
My only joy of Christmas is seeing my kids open their presents once that's done I'm not bothered as for me it's all about the kids I'm pretty lucky that my kids are happy with whatever they get and don't ask for much unlike some kids that I know one of my friends had already spent over a thousand on one of her kids and she's still not done yet
To be honest I couldn't care less about Christmas, but I look forward to it for the kids and of course Christmas dinner
Nope never been the same since I lost both od my parents 16 years ago,they made a big fuss at Christmas & it has never been the same since
Grimshaw I really understand that , same with me I lost my Dad ,Gran , Mum and Sister in law in the space of 18 months .18 years ago I was only in my mid twentys struggle with Christmas every year it was always so special with my Mum
sallylester1 I sympathize,my mum and loved the festive season so much, it's not been the same or indeed anything much since she passed ....
Not really as it's all commercial these days. All big store ads on TV trying to sell you something for Christmas. People just cannot afford it. It's another burden on top of paying for power through the long cold days of Winter and feeding the family with less and less coming in.
It is supposed to be about the birth of Jesus but the true meaning has been lost.
Sad to hear that you struggle. I don't celebrate Christmas (not religious and don't buy into the commercialised aspect of it all) but make that period more about working less and spending time with people being relaxed/joyful
I don't like Christmas. Maybe it's the cold or the dark nights. Maybe it's the whole tradition that I don't like.
I always feel like everyone is fake at Christmas, with all the fake happiness and laughter. I personally hate it and my anxiety/depression hits an all time high. Can't wait for it to be over
I loathe it too, its just depressing how much money you seem to spend and how early xmas is rammed down our throats
TimFletcher I agree it all starts too early but that is greedy retailers. However, no one should buy into it if they can't afford it. Although it wouldn't work with kids adults can write in a card a gift of service they will undertake. I will cook you a meal once a month all year, I will mow your lawn throughout summer, I will do some odd jobs, weed your garden, clean your car, I am sure everyone would be grateful to not spend money they can ill afford on gifts.
I have had Christmas's when I have really struggled in the past due to one thing or another- grief, lonlyness, financial circumstances, but as I get older I have decided to make a conscious effort to make the best of it whatever the situation, this year for example I am on my knees financially but that will not stop me, presents? Who cares really, spending time with loved ones and making memories is what really matters, got no-one? Then go volunteer and be that someone for somebody else, or just do whatever makes YOU happy, if that's not Christmas then don't bother at all, find what makes you happy and run with it xxxx
Right, I love Christmas. The decorations, The food, the Music, even the religious aspect. Now that I have small children I love it even more.
What I don't like and never will is the forced time with people who don't really care the rest of the year.
So we do ours small. My husband is spanish so we do a meal on the 24th as is his tradition. Presents from Santa on the 25th and a meal . Then the three Kings bring presents on the epiphany. We visit friends inbetween and it is just lovely.
This year though my sister died and a very close friend too and I am just not feeling festive at all.
sarahrodri12574 you sound like my mum and myself,we loved it all ,the magic of the music and lights ,etc etc but since she passed its nothing so can understand how you feel...as you still have family and friends hope you manage to enjoy bits at least and it's not too horrible
I'm the same.i'm disabled and my husband is my carer..we have 10 grandchildren and 1 due in February. we love them all very much but struggle when Christmas comes around. always glad to put up the new year calendar
I have no family, and am a live-in carer so it's just another day for me, l do enjoy going for a walk with all the shops closed and hardly anyone around.. as for people that feel they need to max out their credit cards..it perplexes me as to why
I don't like Christmas, I work in retail and it's going to be stupidly busy every day now up until the last working day for me which is the 23rd. Plus my birthday is right after Christmas, so get forgotten for Christmas and get nothing
I prefer the run up rather than Christmas Day itself.
It can be hard work, especially if you are cooking etc.
Lynibis Trouble is, being a Chef, I inevitably cook the dinner because nobody else does it right
Maybe I'm coming across as a bit of a Grinch, I'll knock back a couple of pre dinner G&T's and I'm sure it will not be as bad as all that.
blacklabrador I always prep ahead. I have already blanched and frozen the parsnips and Swede cubes. Nearer the time I will par boil spuds and freeze ready to just tip into hot fat, I will also make, cook and freeze stuffing in portions. My son was a chef and he will bring meat so all I have to do is sprouts and caramelized carrots, maybe a cauliflower cheese, I can make the cheese sauce the day before. I quite like all the prep and lots easier on my own.
Well reading all these negative comments has made me feel guilty for looking forward to it! Being a singleton I am usually at my sister's or one of my two sons as none of them want to 'put on me' to have the work or expense of doing Christmas. This year one son is cruising with wife and son so the other has finally agreed to let me host him, his wife and son, 15. DIL has had an op. I am already planning the meal and today I went shopping and got a Christmas tree, 4 nutcrackers, decorations, table crackers etc. I couldn't stop smiling and felt 7 instead of 70.
Surely Christmas is a time for being with family. It doesn't matter if you don't see them often, make it a time of love and smiles, of forgiving and being kind. Put a limit on cost of presents and just do a roast dinner and a few decs up. Play charades, board games and watch a great film together building memories and taking photos.
Christmas isn't just for kids and to be frank I've had enough Christmases with fractious, crying, messy, moaning kids, it will be great to have an adult time.
I wish you all joy at this time of year and if an elderly lady can give advice: remember, you are as responsible as everyone else for making it happy so put on your best happy act and who knows, you may find at some point you are no longer acting.
I love to see my family happy and enjoying time off work to spend quality time with each other.
I use to really love Christmas still kind of do but it's just my ex partner is no longer my partner and it's sad. We use to really look forward to spending time together. Putting up lots of decorations early. He was happy with how I decorated the tree or I thought he was. We pulled crackers and laughed at the bad jokes. He was happy with presents. It was fun. But now he doesn't put up decorations around the house. He's not happy with how I do the tree says I'm not doing it right. Won't pull crackers with me. Complains at the amount of presents he has.
This year I've just gone down with a cold which usually takes at least 4-5 weeks to get over so probably won't be feeling well at Christmas either. Last year I didn't even put the tree up this year might be the same.
I now go away every year for Christmas. This year we do get back on the 24th but told my family as usual, do not buy presents. It says so much stress and money.
I really like the build up to Christmas, but am always disappointed with the day itself and after Christmas is really flat and quite depressing I find . Actually decided to go into work between Christmas and new Year this year , get a bit of normality .
And I thought it was just me.. last year didn’t bother putting up the bigger Christmas in living room and had a small one up in my room
This year I just can’t be bothered even thinking to stop writing cards to neighbours lol
Many people have their personal reasons and that’s understandable
I love the advent period best , the hope and bustle.
I think we all watch too many hallmark movies where Christmas day is idyllic with a fantastic family and so many gifts.... Real life is nowhere close. It puts too much pressure on people to have a perfect Christmas day. Keep it simple and cosy
I think lots of people feel the same way. I have a friend who hates Christmas and for the last few years has opted out, not bowed to the pressure of visiting family etc.
I too have lost my joy in the holiday and had gone from decorating the whole house to not even wanting to put up a tree, last few years it didn't go up until the week before Christmas only because my husband wanted to, we no longer have Christmas dinner, too much effort. It never lived up to the hype. Only good thing it you can eat chocolate
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