Should Parents Pay for the Wedding?

Nope not at all if they want to help by all means but no they shouldn't pay for the wedding

I paid half on my first marriage. I`ve been married twice and divorced too. Never again, anyways yes It was custom for the brides parents to pay but things have changed I guess. I think you should compromise or at least pay for something.

Nope, you want to get married, you should pay for it yourself.

No. Pay for yourselves and do it how you want to.

Not in this day and age they shouldn't. It was different years ago we no longer need to keep with traditions.

It was custom years ago for the brides parents to pay for the wedding I paid for my own my dad couldn't have afford to pay I suppose its up to them if they want to pay for it

My parents paid for the venue and the food and drink, but they dictated how many people they were willing to pay for, got the decide the menu and were involved with almost everything. They also paid for the piper and the band. That was their choice, we didn't ask for it. We let them decide on the things that they were paying for as we felt that was fair. We paid for more of the wedding than they did but they wanted to help.

If I could afford to help my son if he wants to get married then I will but if they want certain things then they must pay for those.

If the parents want to help then let them but don't expect it. If the bride & groom want a lavish do, then they should pay the bulk of it! Don't get me started on hen dos/stag parties!!

If the Parents can afford to and want to why not, but it's not something that should be expected of them

Nowadays with people doing things American style and tv programmes like say yes to the dress etc, it puts pressure on everybody. Just like social media. So I think it's entirely up to the individual if they want to help out.

My parents weren’t in a good place financially as in the middle of divorce so I didn’t ask them for help. We paid for everything but if my children ever decide to marry I will offer.

I guess it all depends on the financial position the parents are in but in my view both sets of parents should contribute ideally because weddings are not cheap

We paid for our wedding although my mum offered to pay for my dress, I never asked. We were also given some money from parents but again never asked. We didnt have an expensive wedding, we had a registry office followed by a sit down meal and it finished at 6pm. We then went to the airport to fly out for our honeymoon.

I never understood why it was just the bride's parents that were expected to pay, surely it's a joint cost? But in this day and age I think it depends on a lot of things. If the kids have left home and are living independently earning good salaries, why should they expect parents to pay? My ex paid for his daughter's wedding even though she had been left home, living with her partner for about 6 or 7 years, both earning very good money, and she was pregnant. He shelled out about £20k, and on top of that paid out £2k for her wedding dress!!!!!!! Did she have no pride or self respect at all? I got married to my first husband back in 1983. My parents had split up and my dad wanted nothing to do with us. My mum offered to pay for our wedding, but I refused to take her hard earned money as I no longer lived at home, was working, and felt I was old enough and responsible enough to pay myself.

Nope definitely not I believe if you want to get married you should pay for it yourselfs

No,it is your choice to get married but if they want to help up to them

Perhaps if it's arranged in some cultures but everyone should chip in

Thanks for your responses, it's interesting to hear everyones opinions

Nope the bride and groom should pay for it. I've seen that when parents pay, the children's demands and wishes are higher. It's your choice to get married so you should fund it .

Contribute towards the wedding if they want to but to pay the all? I don't think so .We're not living in medieval times with queens and princesses anymore. The bank of mum and dad is all too heavily hit most of the time anyway!

It's 2023 people should pay their own way, it's an old tradition, if you have plenty of money that's fine if not it's a struggle