Should Your Partner Make You a Priority Even if It's Just One Night a Week?
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One date night a week. No excuses and no phone. Instead of being invisible and always coming last. I know common sense would say find something better.
My husband and I spend all day together and all night seven days a weeks. We even work together when needed at my daughters pub. We go on holiday together, really hardly ever apart.
I think it's a lovely idea to keep that spark alive and to remember why you're together 
I also think it's good to do this children.. e.g..some one on one time with say daughter 1 and then the following designated week day with daughter 2.
Yes - I think this is healthy and common sense if you want to keep your relationship alive. Hopefully things will improve 
Maybe I am reading your topic wrong. You seem to be saying your husband/partner does not ever put you first and you are frustrated with the situation. The clue is in your last sentence but I feel you mean someone, not something.
Everyone who has answered seems to have taken it as a general query on date nights as a discussion, I feel you are wanting vindication for feeling upset about how you are being treated.
If I am wrong then ignore this but if I have hit a nerve then yes, of course you deserve better, love can easily die unless it is nurtured by both parties. I would give him a chance to mend his ways (write a letter), but if nothing changes life is too short to spend it feeling miserable. Not easy if you have kids though.
yes we have things to do kids home education but in all honesty I don't know what he wants Leannexxx I hope you won't mind if I speak honestly and from experience. Being together for much of the time does not mean couples are spending quality time together.
When my children were young, from babies, I got them into a routine where they slept all night. From then until we went to bed was 'our time' and he came first as my children would one day fly the nest. We would snuggle up on the sofa with a good film, chat about every topic under the sun, cuddle, I would rub his feet or I'd sit in front of him on floor as he brushed my hair. We just cared for each other as we were a couple before kids and they were to enhance our relationship not drive us apart.
Sadly it does not guarantee a forever together but it does make the time together happy and loving.
Write a note if you can't ask him what he wants and while you're at it pop 'I love you' note in his pocket. Basically give a partner what you would like to receive.
charcowe I can usually read between the lines and I guessed you were upset. Don't leave it too long before making a decision, life is far too short to live it in an unhappy relationship. A word to the wise harsh as it may be.....if your partner does not act in a loving caring way, chances are they don't love you, even if you love them you should find someone who deserves your love. 
charcowe ohhhh and you have been asking about this for a while I take it? I'd sit him down and tell him your not happy in the relationship tell him what you need and if still doesn't change then in my opinion you need to walk away if he's not willing to at least try I have been trying more with my partner but I'd admit I could do more so I'm willing to do what I need to keep my relationship going, hope you get it sorted anyway
That’s how it should be imo but i guess everyone’s relationships are different and some don’t mind if their partner is on their phone etc
We have a date night at least once a month and we have done this for 25 years and will always continue to do so, we've never been apart, we do everything together .
She will always come first and she is my number 1 priority
Absolutely. We have started doing this, whilst our son sleeps, find a good film and Chuck phones in another room. You should never come last! Xx
I think we should always make time for our loved ones by paying full on attention and not piddling around with our phones while they are talking to us!A date night is great if only once a month.
I think I'm in a similar situation. My ex partner as I view him because I've finally accepted the relationship is over doesn't give me any attention. He doesn't even cuddle me much plus I have to wait for him to come to me. I can't cuddle him as he will push me out the way. We sleep in separate beds. We don't make love haven't for nearly five years now. Been together 19 years but its over it's been over for 15 year I just didn't want to accept it, blamed myself for alot of things and hoped everything would get better but it never did it just got worse. I'm hoping to move out in the new year. I wish you the best of luck. I hope you can make things work out and be happier and have the love you deserve. But don't do what I have done and wait too long to get what you need and deserve. Life's too short.
I think that’s a good idea we lose so much connection these days with our phones
If there are fundamental flaws in a relationship then a date night once a week won't change anything. Sitting down and talking and figuring out next steps are what's needed. If a date night I'd part of the steps then great but it certainly won't solve everything. You can put your partner first everyday without having to have a date night.
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