Any Advice on Ways to Get My Nephew to School without Tears? :(
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My nephew is 8 and always been a very sensitive child. But just lately my sister is having a lot of trouble in the mornings. Often he will refuse to get dressed and cry all the way to school. He sobs at the gates as she leaves him. But he insists there is nothing wrong at school, no bullying or a nasty teacher for example. The teachers are baffled because as soon as my sister has left, within a few minutes he is happy, laughing and playing. It breaks her heart every morning. Any tips or advice on how to combat this issue? He just says the reason he just wants to be with his mum.
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Could he have elsa or wellbeing? They may help him to understand what's going on and why.
Has mum been away for whatever reason and he thinks she may go away again? My son went through a stage of making sure I'd be home when he got off the school bus, he was 7 and this started when I'd had a minor op as a day case but ended as an overnight case. Could someone else take him to school?
lilyflower never been away without him. We are a very close family we all work together I wonder if he feels going to school he is missing out
Is it the only issue he has? It sounds like it maybe separation anxiety. Possibly made worse by lockdowns.
My sons is the same age and they were incredibly young when they went through the pandemic. There are alot of resources around for children's mental health that I could recommend but it depends what he needs. Check out My happy minds, as the lady that started the programme did so because her son was struggling at school. She has a book and use to run free parenting sessions, but I'm not sure if she still does.
Midnightflower thanks that Is really useful and yes lock down may have triggered something
I'm not going to go over the things others have said, but I have an 8 year old son, I've found he has trouble sitting still so discussed this with teacher last parents evening, she said because they missed out on reception and year 1 with lockdown they never learned to sit still and quite (over simplified obviously) could it be that the classroom is too noisy for him. Its possible that could be something worth exploring. I know of at least one in his class that require ear defenders
Imnotcheap that’s a good point. I will bring that up thank you for the advice. Poor kids hey.
Are there other children living locally that your sister could suggest walking or sharing lifts together?
Pjran we have tried that. He is fine up to the gate and then all hell breaks lose
Maybe the school can allow him to take in a picture of his mum or a special toy to help him feel less stressed
I remember my nephew going through the same thing it’s completely heartbreaking to walk away and them crying . In the end one of the older kids at the school started taking him for a walk around the grounds of the school every morning and after a few days he started looking forward to it and the tears stopped. He also gained an unofficial big brother that looked out for him for years.
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