Opinions on Big Families
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Whats everyones opinion on big families here in the U.k?
I believe if you can work and pay/provide for your children then have as many as you want to.
I am afraid I don't agree Chelsea. The world is overpopulated and growing at an alarming rate, it has doubled in the last 50 or so years. If that happens every 50 years your grandchildren will have standing room only.
Food production and distribution will be even more difficult and half the world is starving already. Regardless of whether you can pay for your kids or not, each one leaves a huge carbon footprint and is a burden on the country. We never actually pay for our kids as they get free education, free medical and child benefit.
The housing crisis just gets worse, so does the job situation and people are being kept alive a lot longer. I say 'kept alive' because they still suffer with all the usual ailments associated with old age, but instead of dying we pop a pill to keep us going.
With a higher population where many are unable to live a decent life because competition for jobs, housing etc is so fierce, it is inevitable that crime, drug taking and anti social behaviour increases, not enough police exacerbates these problems.
So no, I think people should have the common sense to limit their families without the need for governments having to bring in incendiary laws to force us to do so. Sadly, many folk are incapable of living their lives for the common good.
I know you are having a pop at my post MrsCraig but burden is not meant offensively, we are ALL a burden on society every time we avail ourselves of the services we take for granted. Do you think I don't regard myself and my family as a burden too? Of course I do. I am forever grateful for the education I received and medical care, just 100 years ago I would not have received it. We now rely on governments very heavily to provide these things, quite rightly, we pay tax for them but we do not have infinite resources. I have mentioned elsewhere about a family of 30 siblings, most of whom receive special needs education, free transport to and from, family on benefits etc. Is it really necessary and does it make for a happy family life? Rather I think it means deprivation, squalour, neglect and sets a bad example. I don't want to be a burden to state or family in my old age and would sooner pop off quickly rather than linger miserably in a care home. Please do not take general comments on the world at large as personal ones. I realise you have been through an awful lot with your son and I have felt for you and been very happy that you have all come out the other side. In no way do you reflect the image of families I work with or refer to. Like the new ones yesterday with 2 older children with grandparents and baby twins in care having had broken ribs.
PS There was no need to remove your comment, your opinion is as valid as anyone else's and you are entitled to it. You said nothing wrong. By deleting you are bowing to another's opinion which was also not offensive or wrong.
I think most people‘s problem is that it’s not as simple as “I can pay / provide for my children”, I guarantee these families of 10+ kids don’t send every single one to private school and pay for private education.. so all of the children are a burden on the UK and I don’t think it’s necessary to have that many children - I’m pregnant now and this will be my one and only child
I have 3 kids definitely no more as I would not have the time and energy to give anymore children the love and attention they deserve
I would say 3 is enough my last one whice is fourth was caught on birth control so was third. We intended on only having 2 but mistakes happen, these big families in UK are a burden just watch the TV show on them and you see the one with 10 kids admits all her kids are by different dads she won't wear condom she says allergic to them. Has everything paid for. I admit some big families work and have amazing homes lives etc, but you never know what coukd happen and you lose all that wealth.
I'm allergic to latex but you can get latex free condoms now and there are other types of birth control. I found the pill doesn't agree with me so got cool.
Having been an only child myself and my two uncles and mother (who has now passed) obviously being siblings; I know that they although love each other are deadly jealous even though they receive the same amount of attention. I loved being an only child, I got ALL the attention, all the toys and I hated sharing but knew when to share, if that makes sense? I would have hated having siblings and I myself, if I one day am able to have children ( I have endometriosis) I will only have one child.
I am also an only child, and as a child with separated parents, I wouldn't have wanted it any other way! We lived in poverty a lot of the time which meant sharing the same bed/bedroom as my mum or my dad, but just imagine if there was another child to take care of! I wouldn't have changed my childhood though!
My granddaughter is in her 20s and currently doesn't want any children as she hates the thought of bringing them into this awful world, her words.
I feel so strongly about this because day in day out I work with feckless parents who have a child that is taken into care and then continue to have more, sometimes 5 or 6, all taken in to care. It is almost as if they are saying, you keep taking them, I will keep having them. Never do they stop to think why their kids are in care and appear to have no shame.
I have supervised contacts with new borns in hospital suffering withdrawals and parents with their babies in plaster with broken bones, screaming throughout contact because they are scared, but we get told 'human rights'!
I agree with a lot of what Lynibis says. You may be able to afford them, but think about other factors. Their carbon footprint, how much they're costing the NHS etc. Lynibis put it in much better words.
My plan is to adopt, and if I have a child of my own that I can afford, love and protect then I will, but no more than one of my own. There are so many children that need care and a family, so why waste even more recourses on bringing a whole other life on this planet, just for your need to call them 'blood'. I was raised calling family friends cousins, aunties and uncles. I only found out some of them weren't my blood relatives until recently (my family claimed I knew), and thats fine! Maybe I was raised different.
My sister fosters babies and we both get very frustrated with the system that keeps appeals going for so long as the child gets older. I hope your plans come to fruition and I salute you for your selflessness.
Have as many as you want chelseaturpin we need more youngsters to work to pay for ever approaching state pension. The more the merrier
dawarwick i dont want any, i was asking what everyone elses opinion on big families are
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