Should a Bride to Be Have to Contribute towards Their Hen Party??
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I have encountered a few ‘bride to be’s‘ that have come across as quite greedy and entitled. Wanting to go abroad for their hen party (a weeks’ holiday) and expecting their friends and family to pay for them as well as forking out for their own travel and accommodation.
I find this to be incredibly rude and entitled. I feel if you stipulate that you want a hen holiday, you should be responsible for paying your own way.
Whatever happened to a girls night out and bridal gift?! I would never have expected my friends to fund a holiday for me. I was incredibly appreciative and grateful to have had a nice night out and a meal before my wedding paid by my friends 
I think friends should pay for it but I believe if they want bridesmaids then the bride should pay for their dresses for the wedding
Leannexxx if it’s a night on the town I’m more than happy to pay towards it. But when brides expect their friends to pay for holidays they are taking it too far x
PayItForward a hen do is normally something local to get drunk lol if they wanna go on holiday they are paying for it themselves
This topic has stunned me as I always thought a hen party was a drunken night out, a party at home or a day at a spa, everyone paying for themselves. Surely the happy couple get wedding presents from everyone and that should be enough. No one is forced to pay a fortune on a wedding nor should guests have to pay for holidays for the bride. Isn't the honeymoon enough?!
Lynibis I agree. I would be mortified asking friends to pay for a holiday for me x
The bride should pay her way and even treat her friends Maybe a meal or picking up a bar bill. My daughter has been to many of friends hen parties abroad at great expense.
I mean I think if the friends want to contribute to her costs then that's fine or it's a wedding gift but to expect they pay everything and then do the extras is a little much
My wife only goes to them if they are around town, one of her friends went to turkey for her hen do for a week, that's a holiday not a hen do, she didn't go
I personally think the bride should pay for herself. If it was a meal or something I wouldn’t mind chipping in to pay, but anything else the bride should pay.
Yes just cos she's the bride she should pay towards it. Her wedding her hen party. Not saying all but definitely pay something
Things have really changed over the years. Social media has a lot to blame for it. My daughters friend is getting married soon but after seeing other friends get married she has completely changed the colour scheme to get one better, so sad.
For my hen party we went to a spa and then a cocktail class and dinner. My bridesmaid planned it, I told her who I wanted to come and said that I would pay for everyone. They decided to split it between the 4 of them and wouldn't let me pay for any of it, not even a round of drinks at dinner. I offered to pay for absolutely everything to do with my hen party, even my friends bus fare to get there.
I guess it depends upon what their friends are willing to do. I didn’t realise hen dos were paid for by the rest of the party but for me i think if it’s reasonable to cover the hen do between the party they could give that instead of a wedding present.
I don't think there is a hard and fast rule, I luckily had my hen do paid for by my bridesmaids they absorbed the cost between them and I would happily do it for any of my friends 
If you want one, be prepared to pay for yourself. Too many have expectations of things being paid for them just because they're getting married.
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