New Manager at Work.
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I have worked my current job for nearly 9 years and I know what i'm doing and do things my way,the way I know.
But we have a new manager who has come in and seems to treat me like a slave.Do this,this way,do this....I told you to do that!!
Now,I am a person who does their job and turns up and likes to be busy.I am the sort of person though who will open their mouth and say things as I won't be treated like an idiot.I have to be careful though as I will lose my job and I quite like my little job.I can get a bit dizzy and confused due to perimenopause and anxiety so I do forget things.How would you handle the situation? I have thought about having a quiet word with him.
I think a quiet word probably makes the most sense at this stage. I also find that directness works well with these sorts of people.
If you don’t like how they’re talking to you just say that. Everyone has a right to be respected but if you don’t stand up for yourself unfortunately some forget that.
jms19 I was taught to stand up for myself and be straight and yes I agree with directness.I did think about asking my other colleagues about how he is with them.I have said a few words but in a subtle way.I am not the most subtle person though.
plinkyplonk I would do both, have a word with others first to test the water as to whether you are being singled out or not (hopefully not) and then talk directly to the new manager. It's often the way that new people want to change things and put their mark on the job and may not realise that they are making people feel very uncomfortable and, of course, they may just have a brash manner. I hope you get this sorted out soon, dreading going to work is awful. 
tumblespots The new manager isn't in today so I'll be with my normal work friends.I will have a quiet word with them and go from there.I do think,like you say that he is just flapping his wings a bit.My husband said the same.I am struggling to keep my mouth shut to be fair.I do mumble to myself when he starts.No,I don't want it to get to the point where I don't want to go to work.
I have met many wannabe Managers In my time and they are just a title. They got bosses as well and so forth. If you can’t get any joy then talk to HR about It. That’s what HR is there for. You won’t lose your job for speaking up. If you do your job then there should be no Issue. Of course your Manager is going to stick his nose In because they want it there way. I had this Manager once tell me this and that and so I told him. The next minute he approached me and said can we start again as he messed up. He left a few months later because he was clueless. I am not saying to be disrespectful but talking about it may solve the issue.
Emerge11 The thing is he seems to be a nice fella but his way isn't like the old manager.She asked us to do things and wasn't bossy about it,if you get me.I may have gave him reason to be like this as like I've said I am pretty straight to the point and direct.But I always do my job and turn up on time and have helped them out a lot when others haven't turned up.Maybe I'm just looking too much in to it but I will be having a word.
Not sure if he is a new manager as in promoted, or new to your specific department. If the former he has got something to prove and is thinking to start as he means to go on. I would give him a couple of months to settle in, keep your head down and just don't respond unless he is rude or provocative. Once he sees you're all on his side and knows you better I am betting he will calm down.
Having a quiet word sounds like a good idea. I would start recording the day to day things he says to you and the conversation in writing after your chat. Just note to yourself what was said and the date - if you ever need to raise a grievance, this information will help you be specific and easily give examples. Good luck!
I had a word with two of my work colleagues yesterday and one who was the manager said that he's not that way with her but my other friend said that he's a bit that way with her too.So I don't think it's just me but I shall keep a check on it.
Thanks all for your comments 
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