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Now They Want to Stop Us Using 'Pet' as an Endearment

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So are they going to stop all terms of endearment now? The excuse is 'it's sexist'. Really? I have heard many women AND men using PET when speaking to women and men so how is it sexist. I am getting so sick of the speech police telling us what we can or can't say.

As an older woman i often call younger people darling. I think it puts forth a warmth and I know I get a nice vibe when people call me by an endearment, though I don't like dear for some reason, but still wouldn't object.

Lynibis
3 months ago
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MrsCraig

I remember when I was younger my next door neighbour called me Poppet. I loved it when he called me that. My mother in law calls people love all the time. My auntie has called me Pet since I was little. I like it when people use terms of endearment.

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Lynibis

MrsCraig I think you can tell from demeanour and body language if people don't like being called a pet name and hopefully we would realise and not do it. Personally I like the Scottish 'hen', surprised you didn't mention that 😄

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MrsCraig

Lynibis yes my Auntie uses that one all the time too. Whenever you are in a shop she always says "thanks hen" to the staff, even if they are male. She does it with bus drivers too.

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Leannexxx

Lol I call my kids darling all the time and their dad to his mates called me his bird lol never understood that one but I agree I'm sick of people telling me what I can say

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Lynibis

Leannexxx I think we are rapidly going to a place of 'free speech, CANCELLED '. It isn't always easy to remember what you can and can't say.

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Leannexxx

Lynibis I'm not moving from anything I'm gonna keep saying what I want lol I'm entitled to my opinion

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telmel

I think the whole world needs a reset L 😵‍💫

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jms19

In general i don’t think 99% of people really care. No sane person would be offended by being called pet etc

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Lynibis

jms19 you're right, I have nothing but disdain for people who want to police our speech, and for those who complain about certain words we use.

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KAW18

I don't see anything wrong with it. I'm living in the north east so lots of people say Pet. My mum calls me poppet. Just been nice.

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MelissaLee1

I don't like sweetie but if people address me with good intent I am just pleased that they do.Kindness should be encouraged not made punishable.

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Lynibis

MelissaLee1 I don't use the word Sweetie but if I did it seems more appropriate toward children not adults, but like you I wouldn't take offence if it was well meaning.

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eyeballkerry

I have not issues with people using these terms. I believe sometimes they do it because they have forgotten my name. Our local manager in the pub calls everyone ‘My lovely’. I’m always waiting for her to read my fortune.

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Lynibis

eyeballkerry my neighbour can only be in her early thirties and I think everyone knows how old I am. But bless her heart she calls me hun, honey, sweetie, my lovely, but it does feel the wrong way round lol.

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eyeballkerry

Lynibis I could put up with most of them, don’t particularly like it but I can not stand babe or you guys if there is a group.

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Lynibis

eyeballkerry must admit I use guys in certain situations e.g when all the family are round for dinner I might say 'do all you guys want brussel sprouts' or that sort of thing. Don't like babe at all but not likely to be used when speaking to me😂

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tumblespots

I hope they have told the whole of the North East, it is their standard saying!

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Lynibis

tumblespots I think at the moment it is become a rule in some University (where does all the woke stuff originate?) but as with all these things it will spread insidiously.

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tumblespots

Lynibis Absolute Madness! We will soon have the thought police...

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reannsgran

Oh good Lord ! The world really has gone mad ! I’m an older lady and I struggle sometimes worrying that I’ve offended some one unintentionally.

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Lynibis

reannsgran yes, you find yourself saying disclaimers or whispering behind your hand etc.

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martinlufc5637

Here in Yorkshire we use Flower or luv to address a women, most love it, especially the older women when you call them flower, But I have found in the last couple of years that a minority don't like it

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Lynibis

martinlufc5637 oh my haven't heard that in years, but it did use to be quite common.

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martinlufc5637

Lynibis flower was always used years ago but you barely hear it now, I use it all the time

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janphoenix51

martinlufc5637, that late great Yorkshire man Charlie Williams who lived in Barnsley called folk Flower as does his old pal Dickie Bird also from Baaaaaarrnsley...

Here in Sheffield we say LUV..

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Glitterandgold

Saw this on our local news. It's just stupid. Apparently it's been deemed 'patronising' yet the reported even remarked they couldn't find a single person on the high street who was offended. Who comes up with this nonsense then? I'm a geordie so pet is instilled into our vocabulary. It's a term of endearment. I wouldn't call anyone I disliked pet. It'd also extremely useful when you forget someone's name

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Lynibis

Glitterandgold just so. Who do these people think they are trying to ban words that are not offensive from our local dialects.

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PhilipMarc

I've been without home internet for several days now due to an external issue, so I only use my mobile data for essential stuff.

Still, I've decided to browse here and they want what? I don't care what they want. England and America have one thing in common lately... Both dysfunctional and broken, but a lot of Western countries are like this, sadly.

They can tell me what they want when they make England safe, clean, and prosperous again... I'll wait. Oh god, the Notting Hill Zombiefest is starting soon... 😑

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